How Do You Want Me?
How Do You Want Me?
How Do You Want Me?
How Do You Want Me?
How Do You Want Me?
How Do You Want Me?
How Do You Want Me?
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How Do You Want Me?

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40" x 36" x 1.5”
Flashe, acrylic, ink, spray paint on canvas
2023

 

I can be louder. Quieter. Smaller. Bigger. More eager. Less eager.

Do you want the real me or do you want a performance? I can do both, you just need to know what you want. I can do it all. I have done it all. I can change for you. How do you want me?

I can make you feel safe, strong, independent, capable. 

I can be softer, gentler. 

I can be anything you want me to be. 

…Except for meek. 
I tried that, it’s not a good look on me.
Pick someone else. 

 

*This painting was inspired by the song Desire by Meg Meyers.

 

This collection is a cheeky exploration of “love” and dating from the artist’s perspective as a confident, hetero, intellectual woman in her mid-30s. The artist playfully reflects on past romantic encounters to examine which were ruled by the heart vs. the mind. The heart is the true centre of human intelligence, not the brain. The heart is all-knowing, in its intuitive ability to discern when to push or pull, expand or retract. The brain’s tendency to overthink and overanalyze is not a sign of intelligence, but an anxious attempt to intellectualize emotions in order to avoid actually feeling them.

This playful collection explores the themes of identity, attachment, moments of clarity and cathexis that are prevalent in the search for love. The artist aspires to be vulnerable in exposing the various ways she has celebrated or abandoned parts of herSelf in her past relationships and encounters, and the feelings of triumph, shame, growth and sadness that have been part of her journey in dating.

The short excerpts that inspired the works in this collection were taken from the artist’s personal journal and paintings were created with specific songs in mind.

 

More info about this product:

This painting was hand-stretched by the artist in her studio on 1.5" gallery frames. It can be hung as an exposed canvas, or framed in a floating wood frame for a more polished look. This painting comes with an artist statement and signature. If you purchase this painting you will be contacted by the artist for more information about pick-up options in downtown Hamilton, Ontario, or delivery/shipping information.
*Decorative frame not included*

Please note that the buyer is responsible for any shipping charges and/or for picking up the painting, but the artist (or gallery) will facilitate the process by obtaining quotes, packaging the product safely, and bringing it to a shipping centre at no extra cost. Reach out to the artist directly through the Contact page for any inquiries regarding this piece.

*This is an original painting by Tania LaCaria, there is only one in the world. Frame not included.*